are you a chronic oversharer?

by yael even, guest contributor

be honest, is this you?

Even over-sharers can find the middle ground to living a private life.

Everything is shared on social media.

Whether it be a ‘soft launch’ or even a new career move, it seems like it’s all out there with the click of a button. We like to make fun of the boomers for posting, liking, commenting, and so on Facebook, but we, too, just in different ways.

It’s easy to click that button to post something online, and then there’s the temporary serotonin boost and validation that follows through likes, reposts, and shares. But let’s put vanity aside here.

How can we protect the little privacy we have left?

Don’t feel obligated to share every life update on the internet. Believe me when I tell you that the best endeavors are done privately, and your success will always speak for itself. This is how deals are made behind closed doors. It’s Washington, DC 101, folks.

When we get our gears going on a new project or career move, we must broadcast it far and wide.

You don’t always have to take it online. Think about it.

If you use ‘close friends,’ clean it up. No one has 40 “close friends.” And if you think you do, you might want to reevaluate. Every few months, take some time to update your online circle.

Not everyone needs to know your whereabouts, your inner thoughts, or which holiday parties you are attending.

And, to make it more personal, who needs to know when you’re fighting with your boyfriend?

My golden rule–mother knows best.

Let’s flash back to your playground days. Remember when your mom would warn you about a friend you had over? Apply that to the professional world–especially Washington, DC. Not everybody has your best interest at heart.

Oversharing allows people to share their opinions (without your permission) and generally get up in your business (again, without your permission).

While you may find people who will openly celebrate you, you shouldn’t openly invite people to a conversation or narrative they shouldn’t feel, or aren’t, entitled to in the first place.

There is something special about staying private. It’s how I protect my peace.

Please take my advice here and be deliberate with what you share. We can practice it a little more, especially heading into the New Year.